Should We Raise Our Male Children Differently Than Our Female Children? How?

We often expect our male children to be aggressive and our female children to be more passive. But our school systems punish male children if they don't "sit down and be quiet."  There is a need to encourage males to channel their aggression appropriately, yet girls need not to be raised to accept abuse or bullying, which is often what happens in male/female relationships. How do we teach equality of the sexes while respecting the different natures of males and females