Selecting A Spouse: What Values Should You Look For?

Selecting a spouse is like selecting a candidate for public office: you have to make sure the person shares your values. We often make assumptions that someone who is from the same ethnic background, the same cultural heritage and even from the same religion also shares our values. That is too often a mistake. We need to observe behavior, treatment other people, choices of associates, habits, interests, and how the person handles difficult decisions. Unfortunately we often make choices based on superficial things such as the persons skin color, body shape, clothing style, type of employment, car driven, or house they live in. None of these things will tell you the person's values. So how do you determine values when selecting a spouse? Our relationship experts help give guidelines on making this very important choic