Urban Therapy with Sun #43 At least my kids will have it.

Parents often live vicariously through their children. It's totally normal to want more for your children than you had for yourself but are our methods and motivations always the best? Do we sometimes go overboard trying to improve the lives of our offspring? Are we sometimes just filling in the blanks for what we may view as inadequacies in our character, behaviors and failures? It would seem plausible to want your children to receive a better education than you had but is that sometimes done without regard to considering more economical options or sometimes taking into consideration the aptitude of the child?

Is it right for the washed up, ne're do well musician to push their kids to be stars even if that dream is not theirs?

If you have never been what you might call successful in love and perhaps never married would it be okay to push your child into doing so even if that relationship may be volatile or somehow doomed for failure??

Certainly if you grew up without love from a parent or parents you would want to correct that situation which is understandable but if one of your parents were absent from your life would you allow someone that was less worthy of the title of parent or spouse to stand in just because you want your child to have both parents in their lives?